Learn how Paul Friedman’s revolutionary 12-week marriage-saving system creates a joyous marriage. It’s an online service more effective than traditional, in person marriage counseling or online marriage counseling services.
Paul will show you how we got to where we are today with our online marriage helping system and services. This is the long version.
Here is the short version:
I started out in the marriage business not as a marriage healer but as a divorce mediator.
I used to believe in divorce. I thought it was the right thing to do.
I got all of my referrals from therapists, from marriage counselors who had failed their
What happened was, a couple came to me and they said, “We don’t know what else to do
so we’re getting a divorce.” And I responded, “Well, let me look into this. You know I’m
a great communication coach, let’s see if we can’t help you stay married.”
So I began the process of developing what eventually became my marriage saving system.
The very first question that I asked myself was “Why do people get married in
the first place?”
The answer kind of surprised me because I had been married before and I was divorced and I wanted to know why didn’t I ask myself this question.
The question is, why do people get married in the first place?
Most people say, “Well, she was the best woman I’d ever come across.” Or, “He
was the love of my life, I felt so connected.”
I’ll tell you why, and it’s so crazily simple. Because you wanted to be happy, right?
Everyone gets married for the purpose of happiness.
So now, what creates happiness? And I thought about the typical having a good family,
having nice communication, having harmony, a pleasant living environment. No, because all
of those can get changed in a heartbeat. There’re are so many things that could interfere with these what turned out to be transient creators of happiness. But there is one form of
happiness that is not transient, right?
That is always going to make you happy no matter, what no matter who you are, no matter what you’re going through, etc.
And you know what that is?
It’s love, but let’s take it a step further because love is such an easy word these days to confuse with other words you know.
“I love that dress” is not love. “I love this house” is not love. Those are heightened
expressions of liking something; of feeling and attraction to them.
Love is different.
Love is centered in your heart. You know, when you feel deep love you feel it here in
your heart, don’t you?
It began to tie together for me. I start realizing that’s the soul. Aha, soulmates.
Duh! So here it is. We get married in order to be happy by
achieving love, right?
Okay, really simple. So this was literally the first marriage training that I gave to my very first couple who wanted to stay together and are still together now. I broke it down that simply. I described what to do, what not to do, and why. All for the purpose of achieving love, or growing love.
And then what I did was I recognized marriage as a unique venue in life. What is a venue? A venue is any situation that you find yourself in is a venue. You go to church on Sunday, or a temple on Saturday, or the mosque, Thursday, etc.
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