6 Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship You Shouldnt Ignore | BetterHelp

6 Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship You Shouldnt Ignore | BetterHelp

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Emotional abuse is a severe form of psychological trauma. It’s otherwise known as mental or psychological abuse; however these terms refer to the same concept. Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse doesn’t leave visible scars. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t damaging. When a perpetrator abuses a victim emotionally, they use several forms of manipulation to control the person.

Abusers break down their victim’s self-esteem to the point where they feel worthless. When a victim believes that they don’t deserve love, they are at the whim of their abuser. The perpetrator may engage in name calling, shaming, and telling the abused person that they’re unlovable. Threats are a large part of the emotional or mental abuse. The abuser tells their victim that they won’t be able to do better or find love.

The victim often hides the mental or emotional abuse from friends and family because they are ashamed. However, there are some signs to indicate emotional abuse is happening. If you think someone you love is a victim of abuse, don’t ignore that intuition. Check in with them and see if they need help. You could save a life.

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  1. I found the gaslighting term very interesting, what if the person genuinely can’t recall actual specifics of each word of their conversation… There are many times when you fight with your partner n might say things u don’t mean… N those were obviously said in the heat of the moment, which mostly u can’t recall while trying to reconcile.. you are not trying to deny anything you just don’t know.. what is the best way to deal with it

  2. I feel as though my best friend is in an abusive relationship but he won’t listen to what we have to say as concerned friends and family. She’s cut him off from his family and he must drop everything in order to talk to her on the phone the moment she calls.

  3. The hard part is setting aisde the numbness that has insidiouly creepd in, so that you can make a sound decision.

  4. I used to wonder why my relationships always ended badly, then one day I realised that *l* was the problem. I refused to believe it at first but when I started really being honest with myself I could see that I was dishonest, selfish and emotionally manipulative. It’s sad to think how many people out there are just like me but will never have the come-to-Jesus moment that I did, and go wrecking lives with no idea that they’re a monster.

  5. This video has just mentioned every trait my ex wife had. Controlling in all aspects…it’s not always men who are control freaks,

  6. Is it a sign when they my husband say that he will leave me if I don’t put ever single penny into our joint account when he doesn’t work?

  7. It’s also scary when the perps know the lingo or use the interventions against you. It makes many shut down and also gives them the juice to manipulate others as well. It’s so important to attempt to stay calm, because I tended to lash out and not trust because of it. When it was time to get help, no one seemed to care and even sided with the narc that causes yet another silent death. You are not crazy! It is not because of you that they…whatever. If you cannot have a mature conversation without them having an adult tantrum or missing the entire point just to comment on insignificant things….it’s time…it’s time. For me personally, I have to learn to trust and restore relationships in this Truman show atmosphere. Sometimes it gets lonely and I wonder if anyone is even real anymore. Whoever you are, please don’t give up. ✨🙏🏾✨ I understand. You’re so much better than that shadow.

  8. Hardest thing is believing yourself. Even as I listen I try to argue the point that there was good reason behind it, but there is no excuse for someone disrespecting you or making you feel crazy (gaslighting).

  9. Going through this now. So mixed up truth and error. Afread of doing wrong thing. Abandoned 12 weeks ago.

  10. Thank you for this insightful video. I went through all of these emotional abuses in my marriage. I thank God everyday for giving me the strength to leave him.

  11. Betrayal was what I felt, my heart broken not just by a guy I was in love with, but also by, as I once believed, a true friend I was in a really bad place emotionally because I had the suspicion my partner was cheating but I couldn’t confirm it. I reached out to a close friend and she introduced me to him. He explained how he would grant me access to my partners’ phone without him being aware, of course I was skeptical at first but I had to erase the doubts so I went through with the process and he delivered giving me access to old texts and incoming texts on Whatsapp , Facebook , I message he also got me into his Instagram account and I was able to confirm my suspicion and leave that toxic relationship. contact Rowe via email: roweflint 202 @gmail.com WhatsApp +1 312 754 8907 I made the right call doing this because of the relief I felt after you may also need this service if you find yourself with an untrustworthy partner.

  12. also my older daughter had told me every sunday my younger goes to the beach that me and him used to take them. But now he only goes with my younger one and her friend. i asked my daughter why she not with them and why she always goes to my moms house and never stays with her sister? She told she don’t with her dad and 8th graders. He’s not even supposed to be driving. Hawaii is a very weird state with their laws.

  13. Six months ago I was crying my eyes out watching this , six months later I’m prepping for university to do my dream course 🥺💖it does get better I promise 💖

  14. The name for my daughter was agreed on then her dad said he didn’t like it and made fun of it and she changed the name

  15. Great video, great examples, emotionally abusive relationships are so very common everyone should have access to such videos.

  16. youtube algorythm…wonder if my wifes abusive…sure feels like it ..im hoping the youtube microphone has been listening to her interactions with me and has determined shes abusive

  17. This was such a clear description, free of anger for the abuser, just breaking down the pattern of behavior. This was the most helpful resource I have found, other than the support of my therapist. Thank you.

  18. It is all so familiar to me.One wise person told me once that It Is important to be financially independent and have family support.

  19. Happiness is within all of you, we are all big hearted people that deserve to love ourselves first. Make it a boundary to love yourself and learn to, it doesn’t come easy. Get out of the negativity and create light. Don’t ever let a manipulative person ever define you. Define yourself.

  20. What if you tell them “okay, let’s go ahead and divorce if you don’t care how I feel and you don’t want to compromise on how you talk to me.” Then they proceed to ignore the fact that you just agreed to divorce…and then they say “marriage til death to us part” in the most sarcastic way?

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