Divorce Attorney Reveals The RED FLAGS That A Relationship WON'T LAST! | Faith Jenkins

Divorce Attorney Reveals The RED FLAGS That A Relationship WON'T LAST! | Faith Jenkins

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Are you choosing the history of a bad relationship, when times were good, over the pain of leaving an unhealthy relationship now? Often we make relationships about what the other person is or isn’t doing and we have the tendency to focus on our reactive emotions. What feels good and what doesn’t. The problem with this kind of relationship habit is that we give our power away. Judge Faith Jenkins has been a prosecuting attorney, a judge on Divorce Court TV, and is now hosting and producing an Oxygen True Crimes show, Killer Relationships. She is revealing the success we can have in healthy relationships when we realize our power to be happy comes from within. If you are single, Faith is highlighting all the lessons and opportunities available for you to properly prepare, learn, and plan for a successful marriage or relationship that you choose to be in. Taking some time to journal after this episode may be a great way to get started on having a better relationship now.

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SHOW NOTES:

Relationship Disaster | How loving relationships turn into divorce or worst [0:37]
Power to be Happy | Why your personal foundation is a must for healthy relationships [3:05]
Lessons of Single Life | Faith reveals what single life is teaching and preparing you for [7:10]
Accept, Reject, or Build | 3 options you have when taking relationship to next level [8:39]
Being Resentful | Ways to navigate conflict and reveal a person’s true character [10:39]
Normalized Hurt | Faith on why healing is your responsibility, not normalizing disrespect [15:22]
Commitment | How to know if you are committing to love and the same things together [18:44]
Manifesting Love | How Faith manifested love from knowledge and acceptance of self [19:38]
Broken Love | Faith reveals the process for staying positive for love after being broken [26:44]
Toxic Traps | Revealing how people get trapped and remain in unhealthy relationships [30:59]
Danger Zone | Examining the danger of external pressure of being single and settling [36:38]
Rejection is Okay | Faith on how rejection isn’t about you and cannot be taken personal [41:35]
Due Diligence | How counseling gave Faith peace with her decision to marry and invest [46:38]
Successful Love | Why love deserves the same planning for success as your career [49:11]

QUOTES:

“People don’t really have a lot of relationship problems […] they have problems that they bring into the relationship.” [1:27]

“Being single was not a rest stop in my life, it was time for me to really live.” [6:07]

“It is easy to treat people right when things are going well. How do people treat each other when things are not going well? That is the key and a reflection of someone’s true nature. [15:10]

“We aren’t in charge of the person who hurt us. But we are in charge of our healing.” [15:58]

“I knew I was bringing a lot to the table. And I wanted someone who was going to add to the happiness I already had.” [21:43]

“I could not be a cynic about love and attract it into my life at the same time.” [26:28]

“If you’re not careful, over time, you will internalize that messaging, and being single can start to feel like something you’re embarrassed about.” [38:07]

“When you’re single and you’re dating, you can be the total package at the wrong address.” [41:48]

“A lot of times rejection has nothing to do with you. It’s what somebody else is dealing with, and their perspective and what’s going on in their lives, but if we’re not careful, we make it a whole story about us.” [44:58]

“It was all about preparing, because I wanted to set myself up for success in my relationship, just like I did for all those other aspects of life.” [50:40]

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48 Comments

  1. If to personal you do not have to ask, but how hold after 40 before you married?? If you do not mind sharing the exact age. Thank you.

  2. I ABSOLUTELY LOVED HER!! 🥰🥰🥰 Now her and Matthew Hussey have become my favs ❤

  3. I have never heard her story. Wow! Judge faith is so wise and insightful. I learned so much from this interview.

  4. I’ve been married for 20 years. However, it has been rough. Watching this video makes me realize that I settled. Although he turned into a better person getting him there took a lot out of me. I’m not in love with him anymore and the damage that I’ve sustained in this relationship made me lose confidence in my abilities to survive without him. We have children be cause he wanted them. I resent him even though I love my children I feel burdened by them. It’s not their fault that their here but sometimes I treat them like an inconvenience. There is a lot that I could write a book and I wonder why I stayed because a lot have people would have walked away. Don’t stay if you can help it. It’s not your job to be loyal or supportive through abuse. Whether that’s mental or physical.

  5. "It can’t… as long as you remain." Facts. When a person continuously disrespects you, you must get out to fully see and fully heal.

  6. I think therapy is great before engagement and marriage especially when you have a short engagement. I think I’ll do that as well.

  7. Sometimes rejection really is God’s protection.
    I’m on the journey of being happy alone and not settling. Love judge Faith👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  8. i love the fact that she mentioned that ‘you will know who people are when things are wrong. Its easy to treat people when things are right. The way they handle you when you have shortcomings tells everything about them.

  9. I think she is telling a lot of our stories. And it’s refreshing to get a perspective from a woman who is supposed to be the “whole package.”

  10. 18 minutes in, it his me. Because I am being squashed, devalued, and un supported. The trauma for me is from child hood, and let me say – this marriage doesn’t have any good times. So no good to remember and grapple with. I have been in a Narc experiment for 12 yrs. And I am slowly getting out.

  11. It’s like I read in a comment 2nd chance turns into 3rd and 4th chances.. Im going on 11 years and giving chance after chance nothing has changed.. And all the years I was hurt by his actions I do one thing that hurts him and its being held over my head.. (and no it was not cheating) we are trying to figure things out but it not working out.. Now I’m pregnant with my 1st and his 3rd and it scares me that she won’t have her father in her life because of my decision.. But I can’t stay for the kids.. I have to work on myself so I can be whole for her..

  12. Keep listening to these women and men that’s married. Maybe they did settle too.Just because she married a famous singer doesn’t mean she didn’t settle. We equate money and fame for happiness. That’s not the case. Yall deserve to be single if yall fall for mess like that. Listen to your own heart,mind,and soul. Some of these pretend relationships are industry marriage. You say we’ll they have kids how it’s fake. That’s a front to get people to buy their product. We as adults got to do better.

  13. I think men and women should just stop putting expectations on each other. I think we all have our own journey.

  14. "I realized that fear wasn’t serving me…it was poisoning my perspective. And I didn’t want someone new in my life to pay the price for something they had nothing to do with in my past." – Faith Jenkins
    This has to be one of my favorite parts of this interview.
    We are hurt when people break some of our core values. I’ve been healing from a kind ghosting situation that hurt me more than it should have. And I’m realizing this person broke some of my core values: honesty, kindness, genuine care for the other person, integrity. It turned out there was a huge disconnect between what he said he wanted (to get to know me, to spend time in person, to have others get to know him deeply) and what he actually did.

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  16. I just turned 40 & this interview was SO timely for me. Going through this transition has taught me so much about myself as a woman, I’m definitely not willing to settle. Judge Faith was so on point, I just downloaded her book on Audible & I can’t wait to read it! 🥰💛✨

  17. The one thing that I think people don’t realize is how difficult it is to find happiness in new relationships once you get older. It’s easy to say leave this relationship, even though it had great times, but when you’re in your 40s and you have 20 years of history, you should put your best foot forward.

  18. This is right on time for me as I am healing from a long drawn out 12 year break up. The kind of relationship that should have been over before it started! But I learned a lot along the way. I appreciate this interview, it helped me release failed relationship residue.

  19. The lady(not jenkins) is over here thinking about it like "dam i fucked up, i was annoying to this guy or guys and thats why they left me" 😂

  20. Oh, l am very happy to remain single. I am never embarrass as l do no wrong. Work out all my plans, keep to healthy regime, have the right mind set & never give up trusting in the Lord. Plan out all my financial & retirement goals. Finally, be contented with my lot, cross my legs & thank God for this beautiful day. Borrowed from The Lord another 15 -20 years of stress free retirement years.

  21. Omg Judge Faith!! Wow I love her show (she is the judge in divorce court) and I’m glad to see her talk about this as it’ll be incredibly helpful to many people💕

  22. She is so amazing like everything open my eyes to so much I have been doing i needed this so much .

  23. What happens is a lot of people bring there childhood trauma and their attachment styles into the relationship. If you had a secure attachment style as a Child where you were loved and nurtured by your caregiver.
    When a person has a secure attachment style, they feel confident in their relationship and their partner. They feel connected, trusting, and comfortable with having independence and letting their partner have independence even as they openly express love. However, if the other partner didn’t have a secure attachment style growing up or childhood trauma this is where the relationship issues come into play. For example: If your in a relationship with someone with a insecure attachment style like Avoidant attachment is an attachment style a child develops when their parent or main caretaker doesn’t show care or responsiveness past providing essentials like food and shelter. The child disregards their own struggles and needs in order to maintain peace and keep their caregiver close by.
    As an adult, a person with an avoidant attachment style may experience the following: avoiding emotional closeness in relationships. feeling as though their partners are being clingy when they simply want to get emotionally closer. withdrawing and coping with difficult situations alone. There are four types of attachment styles depending on your childhood experience. That’s why it’s important that you really dig deep into your partners family dynamics before jumping into a relationship or marriage.

  24. Women of a certain status have always had a more difficult time meeting their equals. I speak from experience.

  25. "If you really believe that the best is still out there for you, then why become angry when a relationship ends." Yesssss!!! I just said to a friend today, my faith tells me that there is someone out there better for me.

  26. Wow ! Judge don’t even look like 40 years old 🥰🥰
    This was time well spent 🤝👍🙏

  27. I love Lisa Bilyeu; Fiesty, Fearless & Sweet all at the same time; Tom, she’s a keeper ! And love Faith Jenkins and her sound advice

  28. I love Faith in this capacity. This was a great message, thank you. Sidebar 🙂 – Faith, I tried to watch your true crime show, if you can take the gore down a notch, that would be great. I couldn’t get through episode 1 because you showed that bloody bed for a minute straight at least a thousand times lol, just a suggestion.

  29. I love this so much to the point i cried the whole time listening to her. Women need have more convention among ourselves ..this is so powerful and empowering

  30. I just found out that she is 44 and I am shooketh! I thought was like 28! She looks so youthful! She’s beautiful!

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