How understanding divorce can help your marriage | Jeannie Suk Gersen

How understanding divorce can help your marriage | Jeannie Suk Gersen

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To understand what makes marriages work, we need to talk about why they sometimes end, says family law professor Jeannie Suk Gersen. Follow along as she lays out three ways that thinking about marital decisions through the lens of divorce can help you better navigate togetherness from the beginning.

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50 Comments

  1. I think it’s better to avoid marriage and cohabitation.
    The divorce laws make marriage prohibitive.
    No man ever lost women pursuing money.
    But men soon lose all their money pursuing and placating for women.

  2. I think trust in a relationship is overrated. When my husband started getting frequent night calls ,I would ask and he would just wave off those calls as unimportant . At a time i could take no more of his lies, I decided i deserve to know what was going on. A friend of mine referred me to this great ethical hacking team (Cyberhackingsage@gmail) who helped clone his cellphone without having to touch the device. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad i found out all his secrets and infidelity. I got access to his Facebook, iMessage , Snapchat, GPS location ,WhatsApp, Call Logs and Text Messages ( both deleted and incoming ones ) with a remote link to a programmed App on my phone. I’m here in Florida and able to access my husband’s phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage , now i have enough evidence for my divorce. If you need help or that little bit of closure, i advice you get in touch with them Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) or text and WhatsApp them on +15713758467…..Thank me later.

  3. Divorce is one of the major accomplishments; of the 20th century. Married people shouldn’t feel guilt and shame if their marriage needs to end. Ending a marriage isn’t necessarily a failure. Every contract has an ending date. Divorce is better for children than fighting parents.

  4. Thank you for sharing this with us. I wholeheartedly agreed with you. As a divorce coach I’ve seen so many things that don’t work in relationships/marriages and most failed ones typically follow certain patterns. It’s crucial to spot these common pitfalls early on as the survival the relationship depends on it.

  5. Supporting divorce as a path to learn to love or know how a happy marriage works is a No Sense. Why don’t you just work and learn when you are married and renew your own marriage? You have a marriage not to break but to learn and grow from challenges. Is not a game and the ones who work hard staying will see the fruits.

  6. Funny because in my country you marry with Al your assets separated and it will stay that way until you day differently.
    Also mairrage is a give and take and communication is key the moment when you feel like resentful towards him or her because of sometimes you agreed on in the first place then just be open about it and find a solution both to be happy with. There is still time to fix but as long as you open about it.

  7. If you think it’s hard to leave a relationship, but you are experiencing any sign of infidelity you need to say to yourself, “I can do better,” and just leave. I had no choice but to contact a professional tech guy who I got introduced to by my friend, he helped me hack my partners phone and I found out she was cheating , I even got to see her deleted messages, pictures and videos. I had no choice but to confront her and leave the relationship Because it became too toxic for me. I know someday I would find the right woman for me. Incase you need the same service from the professional tech guy , you can contact him through Gmail : cyberhackanswers @ gmail. com or Text/WhatsApp: ‪+1 626 578 5544, or send him a dm on instagram @blonde_hacker_ infidelity hurts.
    stating what you want him to do, he’s affordable. No one deserves to be cheated on. i confronted her . At first it hurt so much, but then suddenly, I felt free and good. Trust me, it’ll feel a lot better once you accept that the relationship is over.

    ‘.;’]’].;

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  9. ACC TO THESE MARRIAGE THERAPISTS….SPEAKING ON TED ………DESCRIBE MARRIAGES AS IF MARRIAGES ARE BAD….THEY THEMSELVES ARE DAMAGED NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE.

    ADVOCATE SANJAY PUNJABI HIRANANDANI GARDENS POWAI

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  11. I’m a guy who lives traveling. This is amazing because it can be doubled as quality time with wife and later with kids

  12. Marriage is such a personal matter. It is kinda weird that it is an institution. Why? Because without marriage the nation will cease to exist. People dont marry then no children then no nation. i am not a supporter of institution of marriage. It will disappear or at least very uncommon within a few decades.

  13. Why does this garbage video keep getting pushed as an ad? This video is dumb. The subject matter may be even dumber. And dumbest of them all is the speaker.

  14. 👆 .. He get me into my partner social media account messages through my phone without him knowing…

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  17. HOW I SAVE MY MARRIAGE: There are lot of spiritual negativity spirit fighting most marriage and relationship today, My husband left 3 month ago we’ve been married for 13 years. He’s the one that wanted to leave I have been left devastated emotional crying wanting him back he made no attempt to contact me, He goes through the children he moved in with the lady from work I knew where he’s was. We haven’t been connecting for the past months or two we’ve just been sweeping things under the rug and then I found out that he had been texting a married woman at work and they would text more than 600 times a month but he would delete them when I confronted him about it he then went and bought a prepaid phone where I couldn’t track any of the numbers so the situation blew up and he decided to move in with this guy he said it would only be for a month but I’m was scared that it’s going to be longer, I feel that in my book of cheating if your texting a married woman and deleting the text messages that’s cheating because if there’s nothing to hide you wouldn’t be deleting these text messages and you wouldn’t have bought a prepaid phone. I feel lost and confused and don’t know where to go I went back to church and put my problems in God’s hands I pray everyday I read my Bible several times a day to try to get me through this. I try not to put the kids in the middle of this but it’s hard because he will not return any of my calls which I’ve only called him once but he won’t return any of my text messages either he always goes through the kids. I was lost and confused, But I prayed to God to please help bring back my King my happiness, It was really hard for me, I did all I could and nothings seems to change, Until I meet a Spiritists Called Dr Bernard who turn my pain to Joy and my sorrow to happiness, I told Dr Bernard my relationship problem and he told me that he will pray and my husband will come back home. never believed because I was so lost and confused but I have the faith in God that my king will come back home, But lucky for me Dr Bernard was the one who brought my love back to me, he is a good spiritist. you can contact him Via: (supremacylovedoc@yahoo.com). You can still save your marriage if u really love your husband or wife.

  18. well I am not happy with this much mediocrity to be honest, I am not responsible for her stupid parents or their philanthropy, I am utterly bewildered to see genuinely self less people act such huge idiots based on some nonsense which I cannot even detect anymore I am fed up, I think she is undermining what I want and she isn’t very flexible or helpful. what is this crap?

  19. There’s a saying that half of all marriages end in divorce…..but not the better half. And I’m glad that I’m in the better half.

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  21. Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

  22. These ted talkers ….speak about divorce as of its part of life …..only a characterless person will not bother abt his or her marriage.

    Adv sanjay punjabi
    Hiranadani gardens powai

  23. Good discussion, but we don’t need marriage and family (that’s just indoctrination). Mr. Right initially is some hot dark-triad male at the top 10% of instinctual attraction. Then, it’s just about a provider and gender roles with zero true fatuous passion or love. Be snipped, have fun and end a mistake of natural selection in a century. Peace.

  24. If you think it’s hard to leave a relationship, but you are experiencing any sign of infidelity you need to say to yourself, “I can do better,” and just leave.  I had no choice but to contact a professional tech guy who I got introduced to by my friend, he helped me hack my partners phone and I found out he was cheating , I even got to see his deleted messages, pictures and videos. I had no choice but to confront him and leave the relationship Because it became too toxic for me. I know someday I would find the right man for me. Incase you need the same service from the professional tech guy , you can contact him through Gmail : cyberhackanswers @ gmail. com or Text/WhatsApp: ‪+1 626 578 5544, or send him a dm on instagram @blonde_hacker_ infidelity hurts.
    stating what you want him to do, he’s affordable. No one deserves to be cheated on. i confronted him . At first it hurt so much, but then suddenly, I felt free and good. Trust me, it’ll feel a lot better once you accept that the relationship is over.

    ‘];.]’];’.’]’

  25. I believe trust in relationship is overrated. After my husband was always making calls at night , I would ask and he would just wave off those calls as unimportant.I couldn’t deal with all his lies anymore at some point. Then I decided to find a way to know what was going on and I had to talk to a colleague of mine at work which referred me to this great hacking team ultimate hack who helped clone his cellphone without having to touch his device. To my surprise my husband has been a cheating Narcissist. and I’m glad i found out all his secrets and infidelity and how he planned on using this pandemic to get back to me. I got access to his Facebook, iMessage, GPS location , WhatsApp, Call Logs and Text Messages both recent and deleted ones with a remote link that was processed . I’m here in New York and was able to access my husband’s phone even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I was heartbroken when I found out about all the conversation my husband was having with other girls and how he was flirting on dating site. I am glad I was able to get help. you can contact them via email at ultimatehack003(at)gmail com or via WhatsApp,text or call +1(720) 295-4268 now i have enough evidence to go through divorce but I’m not sure if I should let him go or stay cause we have 4 years old girl together. Please I need advice to know if I should just let him go

  26. Marriage, divorce, family laws, family courts, judges, mens rights, child alienation. For men it’s very high risk to lose everything.
    If your a women, get a rich guy to marry you. It’s her winning lottery ticket. I told my son to tell a women he wants to be with that you want to see what kinda wife she will be and marry her on her 75 th birthday. Not one day before. See if she stays or goes.

  27. If you think it’s hard to leave a relationship, but you are experiencing any sign of infidelity you need to say to yourself, “I can do better,” and just leave.  I had no choice but to contact a professional tech guy who I got introduced to by my friend, he helped me hack my partners phone and I found out he was cheating , I even got to see his deleted messages, pictures and videos. I had no choice but to confront him and leave the relationship Because it became too toxic for me. I know someday I would find the right man for me. Incase you need the same service from the professional tech guy , you can contact him through Gmail : cyberhackanswers @ gmail. com or Text/WhatsApp: ‪+1 626 578 5544, or send him a dm on instagram @blonde_hacker_ infidelity hurts.
    stating what you want him to do, he’s affordable. No one deserves to be cheated on. i confronted him . At first it hurt so much, but then suddenly, I felt free and good. Trust me, it’ll feel a lot better once you accept that the relationship is over.

    ‘];’.’]/.

  28. If you think it’s hard to leave a relationship, but you are experiencing any sign of infidelity you need to say to yourself, “I can do better,” and just leave. I had no choice but to contact a professional tech guy who I got introduced to by my friend, he helped me hack my partners phone and I found out she was cheating , I even got to see her deleted messages, pictures and videos. I had no choice but to confront her and leave the relationship Because it became too toxic for me. I know someday I would find the right woman for me. Incase you need the same service from the professional tech guy , you can contact him through Gmail : cyberhackanswers @ gmail. com or Text/WhatsApp: ‪+1 626 578 5544, or send him a dm on instagram @blonde_hacker_ infidelity hurts.
    stating what you want him to do, he’s affordable. No one deserves to be cheated on. i confronted her . At first it hurt so much, but then suddenly, I felt free and good. Trust me, it’ll feel a lot better once you accept that the relationship is over.

    ‘];’.;/

  29. The United States has one of the most toxic feminist based legal system in the world. Feminism spreads anti family values by providing communities with false information about relationships.

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