Did your ex wife ever really love you? If she did… how could she move on so quickly? In this video I explain how women get over divorce so fast and what that means about you and the relationship. While it isn’t always the case, it is often true that women get over divorce faster than men (contrary to what Hollywood would have you believe!). Let’s take a deep dive into the psychology of women moving on to help you make peace with the end of your marriage.
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How do women get over divorce so fast? And if your ex wife is one of those women, did she ever really love you? Let’s take a look at three common ways how women get over divorce so fast.
First, she may have fallen out of love with you. Painful as that possibility may be to hear, it actually doesn’t mean anything about you. Love is an emotion. Like all emotions, it is strongly tied to our thoughts and beliefs, both conscious and subconscious. If your wife moved on fast, it could be because she is believing a new set of thoughts that make her feel like she fell out of love with you.
The truth is that those thoughts, even though she believes them strongly, may be completely false. If your ex wife, like most people, hasn’t learned to manage her mind, examine and question her automatic thoughts, then she is simply believing a story that is based on her own history and belief systems, not on the reality of who you are or what kind of husband you are.
If this is the case, understanding how she moved on is as simple as this: she moved on because she is believing her thoughts. You haven’t moved on because you are believing yours. Love is an emotion largely created by the way that we think about another person. For you to move on and enjoy new relationships in the future you need to intentionally examine your own thoughts and beliefs.
The second reason women move on faster is that they often compartmentalize their emotions around the divorce. This strategy can be highly effective, but it doesn’t make the emotions go away. In fact, it is really important to process those emotions at some point, otherwise they will impact the way she relates and connects in future relationships.
Although it seems like women on faster, it is also quite possible that your ex wife didn’t. Sometimes the actions she take that make it look like she moved on quickly are actually coping mechanisms. She dates to distract herself. She goes out to feel excitement and avoid experiencing the pain, regret or guilt around the divorce. Moving on can also be a way to avoid doing the hard emotional work of processing, healing and recovering from the end of an intimate, important relationship.