Japan | Common Reasons for Divorce

Japan | Common Reasons for Divorce

In Japan, why do people choose to divorce? What are the common reasons? In this video, Nobita shares some of them with the Japanese words/phrases he often hears in Japan (嫁姑問題, 家同士の結婚, 空気を読む, etc).

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50 Comments

  1. 3:35 I agree that we Japanese need to learn to communicate better but the problem is not that we are "guessing all the time". Every communication, however mundane, must involve some creative guess. It cannot be mechanized to "just say that". That our guesses are often wrong is not a problem either. That’s inevitable. The real problem is that we sometimes continuously fail to correct errors.

  2. Marriage is about partnership…no matter where….we mustnt see our spouse as an enemy, but someone we love

  3. *Skipping meals to feed children, or reducing the number of meals a day.*

    *Stretching ingredients, such as preparing rice porridge to save rice.*

    *Making thin soups to fill up on liquids
    Using food banks.*

    *Buying discounted grocery items at super markets.*

    *Saving on utilities, by using taps at parks and public toilets.*

    *Taking notes from online sources instead of buying study materials.*

    *Selling unwanted possessions online.*

  4. As always, thank you for your insightful videos. I agree with you that mutual respect and open communication are keys to a successful relationship. とてもありがたいです,Nobita-san!お元気で!🙏🏻🌎😌

  5. Personally, I consider implying unacceptable. It turns everything into a passive-agressive situation.

  6. In a society where direct, frank communication is frowned upon, why are any of these "misunderstandings" a surprise to anyone?

  7. In relationship what you need the most is trust but sadly people don’t have that and they end up fighting and getting divorced and breaking up relationship I don’t know why people don’t have trust in them (one time someone said) *love yourself before loving someone else* because if you can’t love yourself then there is no meaning of getting a husband or if you can’t trust your self there is no meaning of trust in relationship

  8. I have a double family name. It’s more lax in Latvia. You can have many variations here, for instance, each keeps thei own family name after marriage.

  9. I was married. I was divorced. I don’t allow myself to "love" anybody anymore. True love is difficult. Yet true love should last a lifetime. Marriage is a joke and not a very funny joke at that. Like J. Giels says, "love stinks."

  10. Dear Nobita, Im from Europe, and we have here the exact same issues 😀
    Maybe not in the same magnitude, but definitely the same reasons…

    One day, I will make a trip to Japan, and then, have a drink on me 😉 (alkoholic or non-alkoholic, your choice)
    Stay strong!

  11. Good video.
    I’m going though a divorce in Japan right now. My wife explains her reasons as simply that I’m not earning enough and stress related reason. It isn’t the situation I want to be in, but seeing how things are it looks like a lot of people are going though it in these times. I hope everyone stays healthy and makes it though their difficult times.

  12. It’s the same in India in many ways! Like a women is expected to be wife as well as to work, men are not for house work and to take care of child, as for marriage between homes, it’s difficult coz too much is expected from women than compared to man! But India has been having less divorce rates coz Its told to women’s from start " husband is God", he is everything no matter he abuses /cheats/ or doesn’t share responsibility! Divorcee women are criticized so much in India as well that women find it hard to divorce in these toxic relationship where the women own parents don’t support at times!

  13. The issue with in-laws exists for both spouses in marriage in the US: like Japan, a wife’s mother in law might be judgemental about how the wife raises kids, but also, husband’s father in law is often adversarial because they don’t trust the husband’s ability to look after the wife.

    That being said, in the US, in the absence of abuse/infidelity, siding with your parents over your spouse is seen as cowardly/childish (i.e. you’re not an autonomous adult and you need your parents to raise you still) and that cowardice is how the in-law dynamic causes divorce.

    This isn’t usually the case, of course– I love my in laws and we get along great, for example. But when there are problems, that’s the dynamic.

  14. [[[ 방사능 오염수 무단 방류국가 일본 ]]] 방사능 오염수를 태평양에 버리는 일본은 대한민국의 적국이다. 전세계의 적국이다. 공공의 적이다. 지구의 적이다. 스가를 비롯한 일본정부는 방사능 오염수로 포카리스웨트를 만들어 모두 마셔라

  15. "it happens sometimes" .. no mate , it happens like 55% of the time. 😁 Marriage nowadays = bad idea

  16. Uh ever heard of Orthodox Christians that is what my boyfriend and I are. Just to cohabitation before marriage we have to get permission from family and the church, then you can’t have sex and both stay in different rooms of the place till married. We dress and live modestly like Muslim women and Orthodox Jewish women we can choose to work, we also dress modest and do not believe in flaunting one’s self its conservative and devoted to family and not the Western ideals as an Orthodox Christian in West.

  17. Thank you for talking about this topic nobita. I also agree that because of Covid, people are forced to spend too much time together;( I have to do a lot of housework, cooking all the time, cleaning all the time despite working full time just like my husband. It’s important to talk and communicate sometimes my husband also said he doesn’t know what kind of help I need so I have to tell him

  18. if you used to do house chores, have a job and manage finance, you won’t think about marrige. I think even i marriage i only share bed and extra problem to handle

  19. I would say these reasons for divorce in Japan is pretty much universal around the world. The 3 big reasons are MONEY, SEX & FAMILY issues. But something else I have noticed in the states is that too often people have any idea in their heads what marriage would mean to them & they don’t completely express these ideas to their future spouse while dating. Sure they probably would talk about whether they want children, what area they would like to live in – city, suburbs or country – the obvious decisions to plan for their future together. But they don’t discuss partner expectations. For example a couple I knew got along really well & they were good to each other, had so much in common & the more dominant person in this couple was the female, we we’ll call her M & her male partner is C. M & C dated for years and years through college, through jobs & living situations & then finally got married. C had no problems with M making most of their decisions for all those years. After they got married, for C things were going to change because C wanted to "wear the pants in their family" but M always had that role. So then began issues about making decisions for the 2 of them. Their first year of marriage was rocky to say the least. C had an expectation he didn’t communicate to M. Another example of this is Sue & Mat fell in love & started living together and planned their wedding. Mat was a huge hockey fan but he liked to play the sport more than anything. While they lived together he would be gone most weekends to play hockey with his friends while Sue took care of the house (big house) by herself, willingly to keep Mat happy. Once they got married Sue started saying she wanted him to stay home with her but he wanted to do what he’d been doing for years & play hockey with his buddies. Now this was not his job, it was his hobby. Sue wanted him home & he wanted to play & neither of them would budge & that marriage ended after a year. Maybe if they had talked about their expectations & worked it out before the wedding………who knows. So when Tim & I were going to marry, I told him straight up that a wedding is just basically a celebration with a piece of paper. I said if there is anything he thinks needs changing to talk about it now. Otherwise he can expect our relationship to be the same after we sign the legal document as it was before we sign the legal document. I said I want no changes and no surprises.
    (I know I’m writing a book here but I didn’t mean to)
    My best advise to all couples living together is KEEP SEPARATE BANK ACCOUNTS. My best advise to any newly married couple is KEEP YOUR BANK ACCOUNTS SEPARATE to keep money arguments off the table as much as possible. 😉

  20. H**tai always show only married women cheats with another man, that’s not freaking true at all 🤬🤬 Modern Asian Men cheat a lot. A LOT. As a man, I feel like a disgrace. Although being an introvert.

  21. My father indeed did his own housework because he lives in different city from where my mom lives

  22. I would have to hear more information on this difficult topic to have an opinion. New generation has a different mind set and it is not easy to change a culture. Right now I would say that morality and the importance of happiness are linked together.

  23. Interesting!! The women abusing their husband’s are most likely husband’s with a low salary…..

  24. Nobita is a great social journalist, a view from an European with half a century of multi skilled active life. Very informative indeed, Japan does not escape the drama of our so called civilised world full of contradictions and idiotic ideologies, a world wide phenomenon with some specific Japanese twists but not any worst than in any other countries. Our societies are sick, a social disease growing exponentially as we continue to believe in competition not cooperation. Humans are just that, humans, all too humans to do any better so far. The cave man of our past lingers in the back of our mind, a pre historic heritage yet to be discarded with an advance and elevated level of social consciousness. Humans are animals in essence, a difficult concept to accept for most humans. We have managed to survive so far, at great cost it must be said, how far can we go in this new world order based on classes, dominating versus dominated, slaves versus masters, inequities in distribution of the wealth which is created by human labour on a universal basis. The common disappear, the private dominates, there you have the source of most contradictions in life. Will see what is next, in any case it won’t be peaceful, sad to say.

  25. USA says if your country divorce rate is nearby 50% then u are in healthy marriages 😑
    What about those who do several marriages and divorce too , then later ending up to drugs.

  26. Why do women always think they get to complain about the men at work? All I see is hardworking men everywhere, and somehow lots of women (mothers) enjoying tea etc. All the important jobs are mainly done by men anyways, whether physically or mentally. You can say women is hardworking doing housework all you want, but the pressure is no where near what men have to go through at work majority of the time.

    Please have a little more understanding towards men. They don’t have it easy at all

  27. I’m American. Everyday I try to have a conversation with my husband. I believe that it gives him time to express any concern.
    Finding a reason to talk, giving a treat, putting an object on the bed when they wake up or anything helps and humanizes the relationship.

  28. Being an Indian I know these issues are can also be find in India, except for cheating, you won’t find easily in married couples.
    If we take 20 years back domestic violence and issues were in laws were very common in India but with the help of govts and people also changing their mentality, made everything better in India.
    To be honest Indians are quite conservative and in the past 15 years women have started working even after marriage, and they all are living happily. Everyone, be it couple or their parents have started adjusting to society which is a very good thing.
    I’m not saying India is a very good country but here people are more cooperative, so these things any japanese or foreign couple could learn from India.
    But cheating, it surely has no place anywhere. No offense, but it’s kind of culture in Japan to cheat, that shouldn’t be acceptable

  29. Some Japanese mothers are overly protective of their daughters, even telling them "It’s OK if the marriage doesn’t work out. You can always come back home to live with us." With that kind of logic, there is very little incentive to keep any marriage intact.

  30. This issue on divorce about women making more salaries thing ie “My time more important than you attitude is there not just Japan.” Happens a lot in US in Asian communities

  31. I felt like Japan’s divorce rate won’t drop if nothing’s done to correct Japan’s work culture and societal’s expectations of women in the nation…that being said, there are japanese couples that proved people wrong too….so at the end of the day, it also depends on the individual…how much you’re willing to ‘sacrifice’ for the other or for your child…what you perceive as stress…being free yet alone, or having a soulmate yet holding more responsibility

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