Living Alone After a Long Marriage: 5 Tips for Separated or Divorced Women

Living Alone After a Long Marriage: 5 Tips for Separated or Divorced Women

How do you live by yourself after being married for years or decades? Going from “we to me” is a stressful adjustment – even if you initiated the separation and believe you’re better off apart. Here’s how I’m adjusting to living alone after 16 years of marriage.

I made this video for a reader who said: “I’m in the exact same situation as you – married to a good man but we needed to separate for space and time apart. I’m living alone for the first time ever and I’m terrified. I work from home ….. so I work all day alone, dinner alone, evening alone, sleep alone and then get up the next day and do it all over again. Weekends are even worse for loneliness.
I’d rather die …… this is no way to live. I have few friends and they’re all busy with their own relationships. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. How to be happy with no one to do things with?”


  1. I loved watching this video. I am recently divorced after 38 years of marriage, and now I can look at the divorce as my opportunity to take "the Remote Control" for my life. I re-started my Youtube just to journal my new adventures as a single woman again in my 60s…

  2. Hi Laurie, you look so happy in your surroundings. I’m so happy for you! I noticed the cute little statue sitting on the floor with a book open, how cute!! Thank you for the lovely video. Stay well. Be happy. Take care. I look forward to each one of your videos each week. Love ya.

  3. Laurie, did you take your beautiful dog with you to your new home? ❤ I hope you are doing well. You seem very happy and light in this video!

  4. Going through the same thing after 12 years of marriage and 17 years in a relationship, I’m 36 now so this has been my life my whole adult life really. Trying to dig deep to live alone but some days it’s just hard.

  5. @barkway barkway2
    I am soo sorry you are feeling sad and lonely. I hope you can find something in your life that can bring you joy somehow ❤ There are soo many people that are in similar situations as your self. I will pray 🙏🏻 for you to have peace and
    happiness in your life 🥰🥰🥰❣️❣️❣️🥰🥰❣️❣️💕💕💕💕🌹

  6. I’m watching. Going through similar situation. Praying 🙏 for u. It’s the hardest thing after 27 years of marriage.

  7. I’m not only alone after 31yrs of marriage but I’m alone because I’m widowed, and I’m disabled with an end stage chronic lung disease. I had an older brother nearby but he was not only caring for an elderly relative at home while separated from his wife but he died in August from complications following a heart surgery. My only (adult) child has problems with addiction so is not just no help but sometimes an additional burden. This is not how I pictured my "golden years."

  8. It can be incredible living on your own. There is no reason to be lonely with so many things you can do: join working groups, a Church, get involved in volunteering, dog or walking groups, help other people. Realise that other people are on their own – meet up with them. What about your friends or family – put work into them. it can be so blissful and joyful to know that no one is criticizing you, or cheating on you. Make sure you have enough social contact and you will enjoy your time alone.

  9. that was quite a surprise, but sometimes we all have to go through a phase of our lives. It is important to have friends that can see you through

  10. Laurie, I hope you are doing well and happy. I keep you in prayers for health, safety and well – being. As you spoke of the body, yes, mine warns me also. I am a sensitive & sentimental person. I feel deeply even when I don’t want to. I was like this as a child. My body does warn me of over doing it by means of different ways. Take care. Be safe. Be Happy. Have a glorious day!

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