Marriage Counseling for Transition, Expectations, and Conflict. It’s completely normal for every couple to experience struggles in marriage. It’s a part of growing closer together. If you hit a bump in the road, counseling would be a great resource in helping you continue to build a strong marriage. It’s not about pointing fingers or blaming one person or the other. It’s about working together to improve your relationship. Here’s some examples of a bump in the road that would benefit from marriage counseling…
1.Transitions: There are all kinds of transitions throughout marriage, but a few are—the newlywed season, adding children to your family, the teenage years, and transitioning to becoming empty nesters and retirement. When we prepare for these transitions our marriages will stand under the weight of change.
2. Expectations vs. Reality: You expected your spouse to do, say, act or just be one way and reality is a lot different. Learning how to navigate these pitfalls can make or break the intimacy in your marriage.
3. Reoccurring Conflicts: These are issues that keep coming up with no resolution in sight. A third party can help you find ways to communicate more effectively and find a way to love and respect each other through your differences.
4. Family of Origin Issues: In-law conflicts can become a big power struggle in marriage. Learning appropriate boundaries and clearly communicating loyalty and understanding isn’t easy to do when emotions run high. A counselor can help you walk through these difficult conversations.
I love what Romans 12:17-18 says…
If someone has done you wrong, do not repay him with a wrong. Try to do what everyone considers to be good. Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody. Romans 12:17-18
Sometimes, doing everything possible to live in peace means to seek the help of an outside party to help us resolve our conflicts.
What are your thoughts on marriage counseling? Comment below, I’d love to hear from you, and don’t miss next week’s video on marriage intensives, and be sure to check out the great resources in the notes below.
A big thank you to counselors Dan Bates http://www.counselordan.com/
Gil Stuart http://www.restoredandremarried.com/about.html
Dr. Kristen White www.kristenmwhite.com
for consulting with me on this series, along with His Heart Foundation for supporting this channel. If you want more in-depth mental health information for you and those you love check out mentalhealth.academy today.
Connect to a marriage counselor:
Hold Me Tight—Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=hold+me+tight&qid=1565980632&s=gateway&sr=8-2
Created for Connection https://www.amazon.com/Created-Connection-Tight-Christian-Couples/dp/0316307416/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=hold+me+tight&qid=1565980632&s=gateway&sr=8-4
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2ROH1R48K9FJ2&keywords=gottman+seven+principles+for+making+marriage+work&qid=1565980741&s=gateway&sprefix=gotten%2Caps%2C238&sr=8-3