TOPIC: Marriage Counseling: Three Secrets to Stop Arguing – the Three “Y’s”
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Tonight: Three Secrets to Stop Arguing! (While still getting your point across.)
The Three “Ys”
Y – YES
Yes, I see…I’m listening
Y – YOU
You think that…I’m understanding
Y – YOU’RE
You’re right…I’m validating you and your viewpoint.
(I may not agree at all, but I am willing to know and respect your views. AND, there is probably more here for me to learn. AND, If I were you, I’d likely think that way, too.)
Only then can we open the doorway and expect the other person to be willing to see our viewpoint.
DIALOGUE…NOT TELLING: Then you can have a conversation where both people fully participate rather than having two monologues of telling.
HANDOUTS: You can request the Listening Quiz and the handouts I provided by sending me an email at email@example.com.
6:58 RedRoom-930986: hello
7:00 RedRoom-930986: Tonight: Three Secrets to Stop Arguing!
7:01 RedRoom-930986: (While still getting your point across.)
7:01 RedRoom-930986: Welcome from Heather!
7:07 RedRoom-930986: Listening Quiz – just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
7:21 RedRoom-930986: Yes – I see
7:21 RedRoom-930986: You think that…
7:22 RedRoom-930986: You’re right…
7:22 RedRoom-930986: Three “Ys”
7:23 RedRoom-543844: If I disagree, how can I be honest by saying, “You’re right.”
7:27 RedRoom-930986: You think – VALIDATION!
7:40 RedRoom-543844: If I disagree, how can I be honest by saying, “You’re right.”
7:42 RedRoom-543844: When he says, “I don’t drink too much”.
7:43 RedRoom-543844: How can I say You’re right. ?
7:47 RedRoom-543844: I see, so will it still work to say, “You’re right from your viewpoint”
7:48 RedRoom-543844: If I said that, he’d say, “That’s right” and keep on drinking.
7:54 RedRoom-930986: Email me for “Cushion Statements.”
7:55 RedRoom-930986: email@example.com
8:00 RedRoom-543844: very helpful
8:00 RedRoom-543844: Thank you
8:01 RedRoom-543844: sounds like the real key is the phrase, “from your viewpoint”
8:01 RedRoom-543844: I need to remember that too
8:02 RedRoom-543844: thank you Heather
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