Sexless Marriage? | Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist

Sexless Marriage? | Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist

Wondering how to fix a sexless marriage? In this video, we sit down with Christian Sex Therapist Josh Spurlock to get his advice for couples experiencing a lack of physical intimacy in their relationship, and how to support a friend who is in a sexless marriage.

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  1. Ive been married for 16 years. My wife has never shown any physical intimacy. I mean no hugging, no kissing, no holding hands, no snuggling etc. We have sex on ave about once a month. We can go months without having it at all. And when we do have sex about %50 of the time she just rolls over and tells me to do it and its over in 5 min. or less. She wants no part of it. Im starving for physical affection but I am absolutely 100% committed to my marriage no matter what. I don’t believe in divorce unless there is infidelity or abuse. I love my wife and am committed to her in spite of how much this hurts. Our marriage has been like this since day 1…

  2. My husband doesn’t initiate sex, never has. Only once a month & there’s no passion, he doesn’t chase me or make me feel sexy.
    I’m horny a lot and I’m a very sexual person and I’m stimulated from my mind.
    He doesn’t turn me on mentally and doesn’t even touch or look at me unless once a month when he’s horny. I used to think he has low libido or testosterone levels and so if he’s not having sex with me, he’s not having it with anyone else. but recently, I caught him collecting a girls number so I know this is not the case.
    I then was so frustrated that I bought a dildo and 2 vibrators today.
    But unfortunately I have to be mentally stimulated to be turned on. Hence- porn.
    After I have an orgasm, I feel dirty and sinful because I’m enjoying fornication and adulterous sex, sexual immorality and perversions.
    I know you’ll say talk to my husband but if I do, and he begins to put more effort, I’ll feel like I’m making him do it and I need him to be interested in me by himself.
    I cried after I used the devices the first time. This is not what I want in my life.
    I don’t know what to do.
    There’s no answer to this in the Bible.
    I’m tired.

  3. hearing no for decades got us here, never asking again fixed it for me.
    “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” -Robin Williams

  4. what if you where never attracted and you followed a supposed leader that said that attraction would come but it never came

  5. My fiancé is making me wait until marriage.
    I told her I wanted sex. I feel rejected, but I will respect her decision and go with it.

    I’m planning to not have sex with her when married for the same amount of time she is making me wait.
    Let’s see how she feels.

  6. My husband rejected me sexually. It really crushed me when he cheated with multiple women which sometimes less attractive. We are no longer living under the same house. He is emotionally abusive and selfish. The sad part is that he blames me. I keep myself slim and look younger for my age.

  7. Funny thing is I’ve searched all over for advice on these topics and I never find an answer or a common point of discussion. Just a lot of vague descriptions and people saying you should talk to your partner. Well if that worked people wouldn’t be searching for answers on what is normal and how to fix a rut you’re in.

    I’m on the verge of starting a blog on this and welcoming others comments and stories. I think there’s a need for that.

    I’ve got no formal training in therapy or degrees in human psychology, but I don’t think people want that. If they did they’d find a therapist. I think people just need to talk it out, tell their story and find out they’re not the only one having issues. Sometimes you just feel like a fool when the person you want doesn’t make you feel like they want you. But why is that you’re life when you know you’s love each other. I’d love to hear the I’m not interested persons side, but it’s usually I don’t know or nothing at all.

    Anyways I just wish this video actually offered some form of insight and not just a smokescreen to hide the fact that he doesn’t know what to tell you to do.

  8. More reasons why I think it is essential to talk about each other’s sexual appetite before getting married to see if it is a dealbreaker or not.

  9. Step #1, divorce her sorry ass
    Step #2, bankrupt her
    Result… she will be doing monkey double backflips all over Chad and Tyrone trying to get her bills paid… and you will have solved her problem…

    There, I fixed it for ya!

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