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What are the true signs that your marriage is over? What are the signs that your marriage is not worth fighting for? Welcome to HAPPILY COMMITTED
My name is Coach Adrian and I’ve dedicated my life helping people find happiness in their relationships. For a long time I helped people recover after break-up, separation, and divorces and now I’m focusing more on helping people create the relationship they want and to truly thrive in their relationship in order to avoid a breakup or a separation because I know how devastating it can be for both parties. And unfortunately sometimes a marriage is coming to an end. And I wanted to discuss the true signs that this is the end so that you know where you stand and you’re not fighting in vain for a relationship that is quite frankly not worth fighting for.
The first sign that your marriage is over is when your partner is unable to stop putting their needs at your expense, even after you’ve communicated and try to rebuild a healthier marriage and connection in the relationship, if their happiness constantly comes at your expense and you are feeling worse, you’re feeling overwhelmed, and quite frankly only one person is existing in that relationship, the marriage is coming to an end. Ultimately a relationship or marriage will be unbalanced if only one person is happy and that happiness comes and the others person’s expense. So if you can relate to this it is probably a clear true sign that your marriage is over.
The second sign that a marriage is over is when you can’t seem to find a way to get out of the blame mode or the blame game and it’s quite common for people to argue to fight to bicker and to criticize in any relationship because we have a tendency of getting frustrated and it’s a lot easier to blame someone else than to take accountability for our actions. But when after years and years, weeks after week, day after day, you are criticizing and blaming the other person’s for your happiness and you are re-litigating past fights and living in the past it is a sign that your marriage is over.
The third sign that I’ve seen that indicated to me as a coach that my clients marriage was over is when one or the other party cannot seem to find any goodness in the other. And it’s sad but I’ve seen this. I see this quite a lot towards the end of relationships or marriages where people are so consumed by their resentment their anger and they start to despise their significant other and they cannot even see one quality trait or attribute. And that unfortunately is very sad because clearly even though you may not be at a point where you can connect with each other, your partner has good qualities. They must. Because you fell for in love with them and because all human beings have a tendency to have good qualities. Unless of course you’re in a toxic relationship or you’re married to a sociopath. So if you cannot see any good in the man or the woman that you’re with that is a clear sign that your marriage is over.
Another sign that your marriage is over is when your partner seeks to cut you off from your friends and your family, from the things that you love to do. And that extreme controlling behavior is a sign of toxicity and it’s a sign that you need to make sure that you are aware of what’s going on and that you’re able to establish clear boundaries otherwise you’re gonna find yourself in a downward spiral very quickly.
Ultimately if you or your partner are unwilling to change, if you or your partner think that the other person is the only issue, it’s a sign that your marriage is over because a relationship or a marriage is like a garden that needs to be constantly and continuously nurtured and attended to. And when one person gives up the garden will grow weeds and unfortunately it is impossible to be in a relationship where both parties are not actively seeking to make it work. And we don’t take divorce lightly. We are HAPPILY COMMITTED we want to make sure that no stone is left unturned, that everything is done before pulling the trigger because divorce is seldom not the right option for many people. We are HAPPILY COMMITTED and we want to make sure that everything is done in order to help you make sound decisions and to maximize your chances of being in a fulfilling healthy relationship with your spouse.
My heart is breaking and I feel so alone.
My wife is 35 years old still dosen’t drive because here fear of the road…I take her to work and back every day for 15 years since she started at the hospital….A long story short she now makes $32 an hour In witch i helped her get through school worked shitty night jobs as a dishwasher took all kids to school still taking my 9 year old to elementary evey morning pick my wife up then go pick up my oldest two at the bus stop! Get them food take em home get ready to go to work…Came home early one day only to find out she left the kids for 2 hours alone while with her co worker sitting in his car in our driveway!!!
This was so difficult to deal with i have nothing no where to go so i basically had to take that L ! My kids all three i just didn’t want to put em through all this! LONGER STORY SHORT Now she gives me everything this man speaks of and it’s the worst cause in the end she has the house under her name and left me to believe I Have to figure out a new way for myself im 34 and I can’t let my kids down because of her but she makes this hard its like I’m just here to get her to work and back while she gets the glory to go around happy go lucky! I just wish I could of done something to be more successful she dosen’t want that & that’s just pure evil!
I’ll just miss my daughters so much 😢
Meh. She wont change, addiction, 10+yr battle so far. I’m just tired of it. More downs than ups and I’m certain she has cheated, although she dont admit it. Stole and sold family heirlooms. Neglects my needs and only "did enough" around the house to keep the peace. Doesn’t want to raise our children in unity either. We disagree on many things about how they are raised. I get them on the weekends for now, no court involvement, so far. I also recently released her of her vows. Not divorced yet.
What about respect…? Respecting the needs of one’s partner. What about perpetual recurrence of damaging behavior to one’s partner and their children…? What about perpetual rejection to accept one’s own responsibility…? What about perpetual need to always be right…? What about "my way and my way only"…?
My wife tells me I’m the most absolve worst person ever and her Facebook groups tell her she should leave me. She’s unemployed right now and I work 10 hours a day and am still expected to take care of our 4 kids as soon as I walk in the door and clean the house ect. I get that’s being a parent but I can’t even have 10 minutes to go to the bathroom when I come home or I’ll get an attitude and told I’m lazy ect. I resort to hiding in the basement for now. Feeling unwelcome in my own home and would rather stay at work all day and night.
I Really Found all the signs in my relation. let me go to the court to end it.
Are you wearing batik???🥰🥰🥰
If you deal with these issues it really make things difficult for ur next marriage selfishness will be rooted in you so be wise and leave the death beat otherwise you will become the dead beat
Toxic marriages = chronic stress…..DEATH!!!! If you’ve been in it for years and no change it’s time to go.
What if he’s a Narc?
When happiness comes at the others expense. Omg I cannot relate more!!
I’m living in the past because I never left the past. I have resentment. I despise him. I think I hate him. It all started from the dog. Watching him treat a damn dog better than me. Mind blowing.
I’m tearing myself apart and have become someone I hate because I couldn’t make my partner happy. I’m no were near perfect but no one is but how could I argue my needs with someone that feels they do no wrong and only focus on my flaws and not working together to better each other!
Body shamming.. insults… Not fulfilling daily needs.. not even taking care when fell sick.. not concerned about anything but their own needs… And mainly never expressing love in different ways….
So your saying when your married family friends and outsiders come first. Man I’m sorry but God s word said you have to let all that go so that’s part of peoples problem they want bring everyone into there marriages and this what u get. Good video
Mine has been putting his happiness at my expense during the entire 20 almost 21 year marriage, I am now physically ill doing things he pushed on me that I warned him will do me harm, but he wont listen and now I feel suicidal because he drags me along with this Promise Land, but nothing comes of his empty promises and only intentions. I even find myself chasing down a priest in public because I am in dire need to talk.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
Damn well time to get a divorce
Why is it that when a woman is not happy than the whole relationship is at stake ?
I love that analogy about the garden,beautifully said.
How could you save a marriage When there’s adultery
Thank you 💕💕
What if some of these are true…we were engaged, and now trying to figure out if this is going to work… run? Sounds like it.
Riddle me this? you have kids with some one, but after kids you change but he or she doesn’t and you expect them to change ! Why you had kids with this person and now they should change who they are because of your expectations? Then they try to be someone their not and live miserable out of fear of loosing love ones?
Been together over 20 years I’ve changed he hasn’t my head says it’s dead in the water and I don’t want to waste my life but being single again after all these years is too hard to contemplate …. Any words of advice please ?
I’ve been cheated on because my body can’t be intimate anymore and my future is me being stuck in a wheelchair and I may have about 10yrs left.
I have no control over my body deteriating and the increasing, debilitating pains I get.
I was hoping to live my last days with him and my kids, but now I won’t get that, I’ll be dying alone.
I won’t get to see my kids each morning.
I won’t see them for dinner.
I won’t get to have bedtime hugs anymore either.
My future, my last years, is now ruined. There is no light at the end of my tunnel, there is no hope left for me to look forward to.
And now he’s wanting to be a better man for his girlfriend instead of being a better man for his wife.
I’m deadly allergic to morphine. A regular dose would make me stop breathing and then stop my heart.
That is my future.
I’ve never been able to get a job, no one has ever given me a chance, even a motel said I lacked "experience". I went through 18 straight months of doing applications, all while my mother had died, going through all my belongings, having to stash what was left into storage, including all my warm clothes and coats. I was only allowed to keep a suitcase amount of clothes with me. And I was taking care of my infant too, all while trying to get a job, yet never good enough to even be a maid or janitor.
Had application tossed away right after handing one in at gas station.
Manager at a taco bell deleted my account in less than a month! My first application! I found out through corporate and they got mad at her, as they should!
I haven’t been taught to drive either, not even from my husband. So I lack transportation and can’t apply anywhere.
Having no job experience and being in my 30’s leaves the rest of my life hopeless.
I had a very rough upbringing too and never got into drugs, smoking or drinking like my mother, who was also strongly bipolar and suicidal.
I’ve gone through so much, including a pregnancy that nearly took my life and my childs life too.
But this, this divorce to come, will be the end of me.
I won’t have a husband.
I won’t have my kids to be with.
I won’t have a home.
Only thing I can do now is give away my belongings and hand down what I can to my kids.
Only having some clothes and few other items.
All I see in the comments is people saying how they suffer and how their life, the life of their child is ruined. I don’t know what are you all doing in your lives, but I see that none of you has tried to change anything about the things happening in the marriage, instead pf that everyone is anaöysing their partner, not thinking that they midght be doing something wrong. One advice: if you haven’t discovered what your need as a wife or husband are in life you are unhappy with yourself. People who know what they need are not unhappy after leaving. It’s completely normal that a marriage doesn’t work out. There is also no opportunity not to save your marriage with all of the possibilities that the world gives you today, but if the partner doesn’t want to try a therapy or a hobby, means only that they are probably imagining themseöves with someone else(being caught up in an imagination). If that person doesn’t want to visit a marriage therapist go away as soon as you can. Use the pain to grow out of the burried selfimage and continue doing what benefits you and your child from distance or ocasional visits. It is also not worth trying anything if the person is conservative. You can know that if it gets back to doing same things every time you try something. That also means they are feeling more emotions for a person in their enviroment, maybe mother, grandma or someone else who is requiring the things from them.
I’m crying now because I’m just as brokenhearted as broken glass. There are a lot of people that want us apart and I feel that he’s not into keeping me anymore. I feel that he’s just staying here because of the kids. I also think that we are on the #BlameGame every second. We are arguing, he’s drinking. Signs are all checked. Yes we don’t see any good anymore from each other. Yes I couldn’t even look at him anymore
My husband of 3 yrs is a stranger. He never hits me unless I tell him I know that ur cheating. Tells me I’m ugly and thats why he doesn’t want to sleep with me that the other women look better. Even says I’m a loser and trash and smiles while asking Why don’t you go kill yourself? Told me You Miss Your Daddy Fu—– You!. Over and over. He and ppl he gets to help prank call me. Hangup and voicemail with no talking…only silence. They trace back to em on fake numbers.Hes so sweet to other women. IF U MET HIM U ALL WOULD SAY IN UR HEARTS THAT IM A LIAR. He pays real hookers. One 200.00 and then gave her a commission. He says it doesn’t matter how he treats me.
watching this for my parents👍
First thing is if you have no kids and you have to raise another man’s kid welp Noone tells you that ypur 3rd every time now yoir married kinda stuck u love her but then she changes too once she locked you in then they if you have a smart women she will start to destroy you little by little ti you bave no friends your family is wondering who is thus guy hmm
It will cost too much money I will lose have of everything I worked for. Not my laze wife
Its even more difficult when you have children with autism to manage,and we the parents also have some mental health issues. Im sepperated from my wife but we live under the same roof,we are still married,we still love each other but cant be together. Theres too many things that have changed over the last 14 years. We have no intamacy,neither of us see other people,i have no friends i can talk to,my wife has one good girlfriend that im sure she tells everything to her,i want to be here for my kids as i grew up with sepperated parents and i vowed i never want my kids to go through what i went through. The other problem we have is the house we rent is expensive and neither of us could afford it alone,so its a have to make it work situation. Theres no other rental properties available anyway even if we decided to really go our separate ways. Its a shit sandwich and both of us have to take regular bites out of it! Any ideas would be greatly appreciated,i dont know what to do or who to turn to.
Divorce is rough, but life gets better and happier when you are free of someone you are just not happy with.
My sincere gratitude to #Shek_love_spell for bringing my wife back to me, thank you very much
Marriage licenses exist for taxes! It cost money to file for divorce or to get married! There is tax funding for free food but not marriage therapy! The government does not benefit from successful marriage’s!,but single people after a divorce needing government assistance!
I think mine is over
I’m miserable in a loveless, sexless marriage. I’ve been married for 27 years now. If it wasn’t for my kids, I woulda been gone a long time ago. But everyday now I’m getting closer and closer to saying "I’ve had enough!!!" I’m just tired of the daily fighting and arguing! Fucking sucks!!! 😔
After 20 years of marriage and trying and communicating my needs without reciprocation it’s pretty much over. When the expression of needs are met with anger you eventually grow tired and resentful and stop saying anything at all. I knew it was Rocky well before the open communication stopped, the flowers stopped, the sex stopped, and the excuses for staying away from home grew more. You eventually just don’t care anymore
1. One person is existing in the relationship. His happiness comes at the expense of the other.
2. Can’t find a way to get out of the blame game.
3. One party cannot find goodness in the other. Both are so consumed by anger and resentment.
4. Partner cuts you off from friends and family, from things you love to do.
5. You or your partner is unwilling to change.
My husband today told me he was going to do whatever he wants and that includes not coming home. Him not coming home has become a habit
Not a single modern civil "marriage" is worth fighting for.
Only holy matrimony is real.
My Wife ran away with my best friend, God l miss him
ONE TIP : when your wife had been taking on a pill
for the last couple of yrs,,,
(1, 2)yrs , KNOW THAT SHE DIDNT LIKE YOU ANYMORE, MEANWHILE.. SHE (NORMALLY) ALREADY HAD A RELATIONSHIPS WITH ANOTHER MAN.
DON’T PLEA FOR IT, JUST, IGNORE HER BUT, DONT ACT VIOLENCE.
JUST LET ITGO HER WAY…
MAKE SURE THAT THE CHILDREN ARE WITH YOU AS WELL .
TAKE GOOD CARE OF YR
KIDS. LOVE THEM MORE.
DONT DELIVERING ANY HATRED WORDS, THINGS AGAINST HER (WIFE).
DONT CONVEY ABOUT YOURSELF AND KIDS PRETENDING TO BE SO DEAPERATE, LIFE RUINED, SEEKING BACK HER CARE,,, FEEL SADDENED FOR YOU AND KIDS OFCOURSE, WINNING HER HEART FOR ONCE AGAIN… AGAIN , SO …DONT…🤔✍️🙄
B’COZ , SHE FELT NOTHING EMOTIONAL , INSTEAD,,, SHE ‘D SAY YOUR NAME AMONG HER FRIENDS, FAMILIES AND USED IT JUST ONLY FOR A MATTER OF JOKE
AMONG THEM.
ITS NOT OVER ::
NEVER HURT THE KIDS
ANY MORE AS THEY
WERE ALREADY BEEN
IN PAIN.
SREVIVE YOUR FAMILY
AND THEN SET THE
THINGS ONCE AGAIN &
THINK OF ONLY
POSITIVE NATURE
IF CHRISTIAN : PRAY TO
LORD JESUS CHRIST
BRING YR KIDS TO THE
CHURCH , GUIDE THEM
OFFER A PRAYER TO
WITH THEM EVERY
DAY.
ONE DAY, OPPORTUNITY
PRESENTED ITSELF ON
YOU AND KIDS , WOULDNT REGRETED ANYMORE.
THATS THE CORRECT PATH. YOURE NOT LOST
Wow blown away by this
My marriage wasnt even real,if I even have 1
This was super helpful! Thank you!
100% 😢correct!!! My husband constantly insults me since we were dating he lied was cruel spent my money for a studio so I would stop sleeping in my car!! I’m falling out of love feel disgusted with myself for tolerating his cruel rude disrespectful mean behavior!!! I’m no longer attractive to him anymore feel very lonely!! I pray God sends me a beautiful kind loving understanding very patient good man soon!
My husband and I have anamazing relationship we love so deeply and have had such great connection andl intimacy. None of your signs here are what we are experiencing. We got married and super happy. However, I had to travel to TX to care for my dad with dementia. In my time in TX, I was sexually assaulted while running in park. That was devastating to me and I kept silent in shame. That was my mistake. I should have told my husband. We ended up getting pregnant and was so excited for our first baby! But after baby was born, we noticed the baby did not have his features and completion, my husband is black. He did a paternity test and the baby is not his. Baby was result of the assault. Noe I’m devastated and don’t want to lose the love of my life. I keep crying and told him everything that happened, but he is totally cold to me… is there any hope here?