The Easiest Way to Improve Your Relationship | The Gottman Institute

The Easiest Way to Improve Your Relationship | The Gottman Institute

The easiest way to improve your relationship is to pay attention to your partner during life’s small, everyday moments. This video shows you how.

As relationship researcher Logan Ury explains, you can choose to TURN TOWARDS your partner in these moments and accept their bids to connect, or TURN AWAY and ignore their bids. Every time you choose to turn towards, you make a deposit in your Emotional Bank Account.

Notice when your partner makes a bid. Show interest, ask questions, nod, listen, and put away your screens.

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  1. Good message, but not Biblical. Thanks for showing me that Gottman is not a Bible based business. If not, all messages are now suspect.

  2. anyone else notice that in the first cartoon the right hand sigh is the one where the partner asks "what’s on your mind?" also has the word "break" over the top of that side, indicating that asking "what’s on your mind?" will break your relationship.

  3. okay wait but surely they turn towards or away for underlying reasons – it’s just a surface behaviour and that is NOT the cause of a good or bad relationship but rather an indicator that it’s close or distant

  4. So hold all the way up… The gay couple had to be depicted as masters? Ugh… The Internet and its sick agenda. Off of this I go

  5. I’m Christian and I LOVE this video!
    God created us as we are and wishes us to share our love. This also counts for gay/queer love. It’s the same emotion hetero people have. God doesn’t devide people, he brings us together.
    Furthermore, we humans have no right to judge one another. We ought to give love and respect.
    Dear gay, queer, hetero people: Keep spreading the love. Don’t listen to selfrighteous people who are full of themselves. Love is love! 💕

  6. This video will teach us on how to become our relationship great by improving this with the tips given. For more ideas watch 👉 to know how to improve relationship. Thanks!

  7. This came via a "Marriage Minute" link. It’s falsely trying to equate normal heterosexual marriage with "gay marriage" (no such thing). Sorry, Gottman Institute, if you can’t get the fundamentals right, I have no trust in anything else you have to say. Later.

  8. Cheers for the Video! Apologies for butting in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you tried – Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (search on google)? It is a great one off guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some great things about it and my work buddy at last got cool results with it.

  9. I get that we should turn towards our partner. But how much Turning Towards my partner is enough? I feel like my partner always wants me to turn towards her every minute of the day. Basically I have 2 jobs, 24/7/365 with no vacation. My first job, is my actual career where my focus is needed every minute throughout the day. Then after work, I come home & my 2nd Job starts, giving attention & my wife’s needs every minute, but I hardly get a break for my own self or sanity. My wife thinks I hate her or thinks she’s not good enough, if I don’t fill her up with attention 24/7. But yet, I married her & love her, so obviously I don’t hate her. THIS, is why we argue.

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