WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY about DIVORCE and REMARRIAGE
In this video, Daniel answers the question; What does the Bible say about divorce and remarriage. Is divorce a sin? and is remarriage adultery? Watch the full video to see what the Bible says about divorce and remarriage.
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In this video, Daniel answers one of your questions ‘What does the Bible say about divorce and remarriage?’ We receive many questions about divorce and remarriage. Is divorce and remarriage a sin? Should Christians divorce? and, Is remarriage considered adultery? These are some of the questions that Daniel will answer in this video. If you want to know what is grounds for divorce are according to the Bible or if you can remarry after a divorce, then watch the full video where Daniel looks at what the Bible says about divorce and remarriage.
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What does the bible say if your spouse regularly beats you up and mentally abuse you can you divorce on biblical grounds?
Please pray for me and my wife. Thank you
This is a common misunderstanding. All of Matthew 5:27-32 is on the subject of adultery. Not adultery and divorce. When Jesus says, "’but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, *except* *for* *the* *reason* *of* *sexual* *immorality,* makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery."
Many say that the only reason given to divorce is your wife is if she has been sexually immoral. No. Jesus says if you divorce your wife, you cause her to commit adultery. Now if she has been sexually unfaithful while married, she wouldn’t become an adulterer if her husband divorces her…. because she would already be one. But this also means that the man cannot remarry. If you remarry another, while your original spouse is still alive, it’s adultery (Romans 7:1-3). Paul says in Romans 7:1-3, that death is the only thing that releases someone to marry someone else. Not if they were unfaithful. I hate to say it, but some believers are just itching for their spouse to slip up so they can feel justified to leave and/or marry someone else.
(Side note: Believers often cite Matthew 5 or Matthew 19 to justify divorce, but then ignore the end of Matthew 5:32 when Jesus says, "and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." It seems that the woman is to remain unmarried for the rest of her life on earth. This of course could be flipped against husband if he was the one in the wrong.)
Remember in Matthew 19:1, the first questions is, "Can a man divorce his wife for any reason?"
Jesus initial response to them was basically ‘No’. Jesus could have said, "The only reason to divorce your wife is if she has been unfaithful." But he didn’t.
Also, consider an example God gives us with Hosea and Gomer. He basically tells Hosea to go find and take back his wife, despite the fact that she had been unfaithful to him in the marriage. Also interesting that he commands Hosea to marry someone that we today would call being unequally yoked.
Not to mention, think about how we have been unfaithful in our relationship with Jesus. Jesus would have a right to ‘divorce’ us. But he doesn’t. He continually forgives us and takes us back.
Why the whiny cheesy music?
My husband has been cheating on me with porn. We had an agreement that porn was cheating. There was no "porn" during biblical times but do you think it would be ok for a married man to watch other people have sex? Of course not. So if it isn’t ok in person why would it be ok through a screen? Our culture has so many problems. I may never love again. I pray for strength and healing.
Marriage can be hard what about women that are in abusive relationships are the supposed to stay with there partners/husbands
As Jesus said there is only one reason to divorce and Paul is confirming that in 1COR.7 but because as Peter said Paul’s letters are sometimes hard to be understood people error.
(2 Peter 3:16 KJV) As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction.
If you divorce for a reason other than fornication you can’t marry another. If a woman is divorced for any reason and is defiled she can’t not return to her husband. (Deut. 24:4)
A pastor who has God’s words in his mouth and brings up opinions of other people concerning scriptures which are false causes people to error due to confusion.
Pls help me with this my partner his a Prophet and he told me his devoicing his wife and which ,the wife decided to move on and date on other man which he is an Apostle in the church,, how ever my partner ask me to pray with him and he told me that he sees a delay for the marriage , surprisedly and late he just told me his back to that wife after 2 years Relatioship that he even ask my mother as am intecesor to pray and bless us for the marriage I’m shocked pls adv me because I’m preparing to find the truth if it is the same woman or not so that we can end it up peacefull as a man of God and me being a woman of God🙏
I am still waiting on the Lord to show me His will for my life. I was divorced by my wife about 14yrs ago. There may or may not have been someone else involved with her. I have been celebit for 13 last years as I don’t know what I can do. Stay celebit for life, or remarriage. God help us all, this is so hard.
Some one please answer me , is their a proper way to get married ? Can it just be at city hall will it still be holy?
This man is lying. YOU CANNOT REMARRY UNLESS YOUR SPOUSE DIES! Read the scriptures for yourself. You are bound to your spouse for as long as they live!
God is so kind
I need prayer and advice. I marriage for 5 years to a deadbeat husband who said he a Christian but show no fruit. Everyone told me we were going too fast. He doesn’t work now. He never keeps his job for less the 4 months. I pay for everything. Even for him. He put us in debts. I got us out of debts by using all my savings. I also take care of the kids. He always gone. He doesn’t help. I asked him for help. he just said he will but never show any action. He doesn’t help me take care of the kids. He smoked weed all the time. I have enough. I am not divorce but I did a separation instead because I’m overwhelmed, and this man is a burden. I’m not divorce because he wasn’t committed any adultery but he not being the head of the household. I’m pretty much feel like a single mother. I don’t even mind being a single mother and I not going to remarried anyway and that fine with me. Because the Lord is important in my heart. When the husband there I felt so chaotic but When he is gone I feel at peace about it and also felt no distraction. Did I made the right Choice? I believe I did. Excuses me for my bad grammar English is my second language.
If you dont love somone you have the right for divorce? Where is that? This is false teaching and a clear distortion of scripture.
Forgiving someone who altered your life and destroyed it is like fighting an unconquerable enemy. Every day my horrible life is the result of divorce.
Thank you for your sermons. Bless you for bringing the of God. Your the best preacher on you-tube.
What if they were just get married at the court only but not at the church ?
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When ye divorce women, and they fulfil the term of their ( ‘Iddah), do not prevent them from marrying their ( former) husbands, if they mutually agree on equitable terms. This instruction is for all amongst you, who believe in God* and the Last Day. That is ( the course making for) most virtue and purity amongst you and God knows, and ye know not.
Holy Quran, chapter 2; Ao Baqarah ( The Heifer) verse 232.
* Allah Subhana Wata’ala; Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
I guess I’m enslaved then. I was taught differently but I now see that because I was unfaithful and I divorced my ex wife I guess she is free and I am nit free to marry. I just hope I have redemption in Jesus. This will be a very difficult and heavy burden to bare.
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Kelli
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I am a 62 year old woman. I was married at 22 to my first husband. I had grown up in the church of Christ as a kid and walked away when I was 14 Because I was convinced I could never be good enough for God to accept or love me. I thought I had to be perfect and I didn’t know how to do it. My mom made us go to church but at home nobody lived it. I was raised by my mom and my stepdad. I had never read the Bible but I heard lots of sermons and I knew divorce was a bad sin that I did not want to commit. So when I married my unbelieving husband I just told myself that I would stay married to him no matter what. Though I had never read the Bible I had the idea in my head that if I got divorced and remarried I would go to hell. Even though I knew my mother had left my dad when I was two years old and married someone else and had more children. Then later they got divorced and she had a married boyfriend for 10 years after while I was in my teens and early twenties before she remarried someone else. Then she left and divorced him for a younger man for two years. When she started having health issues she returned to my stepdad because she knew he could take care of her. She did stay with him till the end of his life and grew to love him in her own way, though I would say she was abusive in many ways towards him as she was with me verbally and emotionally as a child, I will say that.
Back to my first husband when he told me he didn’t love me anymore and wanted to separate I was crushed and scared. I cried for over a week essentially begging him to change his mind. He told me that he wasn’t going to stop running around and doing what he wanted he just wanted me to stop crying and I could stay but not to expect anything from him. When I told my mom she advised me to get a cheap divorce and come home to Michigan. we had no children and had only been married 2 1/2 years. As I said I was very scared and afraid to be alone. I slept on the sofa for a while and then I ended up leaving Arizona with one of my husband‘s friends and moved in with him when we got to California where I lived for almost a year with him. After that I had a long succession of boyfriends and dating experiences. 10 years later I remarried somebody I should have never had anything to do with. I have been such a foolish woman and I know I deserve nothing good.
I started reading the Bible here and there in between the first and the second marriage. Sometimes I would go to church for a while and then I would stop. When I got into my second marriage I thought now I can be a good girl and now God will love and bless us. I started going to church and praying and trying to do all the right things. But I found the more I read the Bible the more I felt condemned because of my past and putting God off to make my life how I wanted it. I fell apart emotionally several times during that seven year marriage. He had been cheating on me throughout our marriage. No matter what I did I couldn’t make him love me or care about me. Ultimately I had to let him divorce me. I fell away from the church again after that and had a couple of sexual relationships which ate away at my Conscience and made me feel miserable. I was sometimes going to church and sometimes not. Then I had a boyfriend for 10 years who I thought I loved but he had a drinking problem. I kept waiting for him to change and become a Christian so we could marry but ultimately I had to break up with him. I thought “I have to marry a Christian this time.” So I did marry a man shortly after, who was new to the faith but for me that was perfect I thought. We are still married, we’ve had some rough times where I wasn’t sure it was going to work but after almost 11 years I would say he is my very best friend and he would say the same about me. We both want to do God’s will. But I look back now and see how immoral, deceived and selfish I was and hearing different teachings about divorce and remarriage and I’ve been suffering inside for a long time about this now Because I’m not sure what we’re supposed to do or how to do it. And is it too late for me? Maybe God really never did love me or want me just like I thought when I was a child. Maybe I’m too late.
My husband story is similar to mine in the way his wife left him for another man when he was young. Only they had children that’s questionable whether one of them is his or not. She divorced him, took his two little boys and kept them from him though he continued to pay child support. And he, to my understanding, had a succession of illicit relationships after that before coming to understand and care about what God wants. Now we are both wondering, I more than he, if our marriage is even legitimate or are we to separate and be alone the rest of our lives? He is the breadwinner, I have no skills other than cleaning houses which I did for years until I really couldn’t handle it physically anymore. I stopped working about three years ago. sometimes I just wish I had never been born. I remember thinking that when I was little hearing all those sermons at church and thinking I was a bad girl that God didn’t want. I don’t know where I stand.
You said you want to hear what God’s word says about it Paul is not a God Jesus Christ is the son of God and God get your facts straight don’t send people to hell like you are doing
2 Some Pharisees came to test him. They asked, “Can a husband divorce his wife?”
3 Jesus answered them, “What command did Moses give you?”
4 They said, “Moses allowed a man to give his wife a written notice to divorce her.”
5 Jesus said to them, “He wrote this command for you **because you’re heartless.
6 But God made them male and female in the beginning, at creation.
7 That’s why a man will leave his father and mother and will remain united with his wife, 8 and the two will be one.
So they are no longer two but one.
9 Therefore, *don’t let anyone separate* what God has joined together.”
10 When they were in a house, the disciples asked him about this.
11 He answered them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman is committing adultery.
12 If a wife divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery.”
Mark 10:2-12 (GW)
So all must stop deceiving people into believing divorce & and adulterous remarriages are fine with God, they aren’t.
"The unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived neither fornicators, nor idolaters,** nor adulterers** nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God".
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (KJV)
I’ve a question sir.
What shall one do when it’s way more brutal than just cheating? What shall one do when one have to go through all the disrespect, abuse, torture, pain almost every single day of life. (along with getting cheated but put blames on the partner of cheating just to cover up one’s fault)
I’ve a friend who’s married to a man with NPD. That man has been torturing her, abusing her mentally, physically, emotionally and in every single way almost every single day since last 13-14 years. She’s been treated so brutally, cruelly, inhumanly.
She’s beaten up without any clothes on her body, her private parts are also hurt brutally, She’s been spit at all over her body and her face, her neck is wrapped by belts so hard till she starts loosing breath. And what not, she’s hurt, harmed, tortured, beaten up without a single fault of her in such a way I can’t even described it all. I’m getting tears in my eyes while writting this.
She’s living in none less than a hell.
Does GOD still wants this kind of marriage/relationship to be maintained?
Please clear my doubt
How can I help my friend escape from this evil man? Please 🙏 suggest some ways.
Her family is not in support of filing a divorce even after knowing all the truth.
And that man maintains high social status to file complaint against him.
She’s all helpless, so am I.
Please remember her in your prayers to find a way out.
Hey I hope you get this comment I have an idea for a new vid here. What does the Bible say about same sex marriage? This would be a good video to talk about. Obviously it’s a Sin to do so but it be cool to here in detail what God thinks about this. Or what about Transgender people. What if a Christian man Marries a Transgender female? This has to be a Sin and an interesting video just putting this out there
Sexual Immorality is a reason for divorce. I caught my husband on a gay website with pictures of him posted. He said it was an old account he had in his past. That it was strictly text messages for money and nothing more. Question: Is this considered sexual immorality???
I need perspective on how to think about abuse in a marriage. There have been couples I have come across and also within my own family in the past (cousins/siblings) that were being abused (physically & mentally) by their spouse and they ended up divorcing them. I want to know how to think about this for the future, if I ever am in a position to help someone else and how to approach this. Thank you for any help and guidance on this.
Help me my Lord and Savior! Forgive me for my wrong doing and help me to heal and to walk with you! In Jesus’s name Amen!!
My wife run away from me,I call her twice to ask forgiveness with tears,and she didn’t forgive me,we have one daughter which is 2 years old,till now I’m with tears,what to do…
So what do you say to the wife that finds out her husband tried to sleep with her daughter, did drugs with her or beats her or leaves her in poverty while he spends all the $ for himself, or a wife with a husband that has many addictions and refuses to change, a husband that kills a child or murders?
The Bible and church lose my support here. Creator does not want us to stay in these hurtful and life threatening relationships.
It is not the woman’s fault for choosing the wrong man either. Or vice versa.
Did you know child protection services will take children away from women who stay in abusive relationships and who return to them?
Hey Daniel make a movie about is it a sin for for a parent
Somebody tell me wife not interested in marriage forced by her family so that brothers can get married than in that way she take revenge on husband making false allegations on husband family domestic violence case Ruins their life status in society false witness and want all inlaws property in her name be secure play innocent Trump card in society making husband his family wrong court supports police too corruption… What it is ground base for cruelty on husband and his family for but sick court injustice husband and try for reconcile even knowing wife’s intentions give her chance instead punishing her release no action on her false witness cops … So go does support this in bible not discussed even ma suffer his family women suffer mother sister babies children dogs everyone in domestic violence case… That is why Dr. Bheemrao Ambedkar being hindu rejected learnt islam christianity reject all these end accepted Buddhism so Buddhism is better than christianity world’s wise person… choose there should be law in bible to divorce n remarriage Grounds or erased why no value for messiah
Should b second chance wen widow can get else injustice
Remarriage is for Widows/Widowers!!! Marriage is for Virgins and Those Burning with Passion/Lust (ie. Fornicators/ Repentant-Fornicators never married). Divorce is for None (Death do us part). The Bible covers all situations and circumstances regarding divorce and remarriage. For example, no one has to stay in an abusive situation because the Bible says you can seperate, or reconcile. Those Divorced (while their ex-spouse is still living) must remain unmarried or reconcile. Moses allowed divorce in the old testament because people’s heart’s were hard. BUT, Jesus said, it wasn’t that way in the beginning of creation; marriage is a Covenant (let no man seperate)…never was it in God’s plan that we get divorced (two are one flesh). Bible is clear in several scriptures, if you divorce, you can NOT remarry or you will be an adulterer, if your ex-wife or ex- husband is still alive and/or has NOT died. And, No adulterer will inherit the Kindom of God. Word for word, The Bible says, "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress:" if he/she depart (divorce/separate) remain unmarried or reconcile 1 Corinthians 7:11, Romans 7:2-3; Luke 16:18, Matthew 5:32, 19:9 etc.
Jesus SAID fornication-he used “porneia” Matthew 1:18-24………Mary and Joseph had not come together yet. They were betrothed. Joseph found Mary pregnant and was thinking of “putting her away”………..BEFORE Joseph had taken Mary to wife………Just something to ponder. None of us can deny that Joseph COULD put Mary away for “porneia” before the final wedding (during the betrothal). Since we see Jesus using both Porneia (fornication) AND Mocheia(adultery), it should cause us to wonder why He chose to use two different terms. It caused me to seek.
None of us can deny that Joseph COULD put Mary away for “porneia” before the final wedding (during the betrothal). Since we see Jesus using both Porneia (fornication) AND Mocheia(adultery), it should cause us to wonder why He chose to use two different terms. It caused me to seek.
Hi.
I had an affair in 2010 and now it’s 2022 and my wife wants a divorce.She does not want any counseling or anything else she just wants a divorce.She says she doesn’t love me and trust me anymore not knowing that she is seeing someone else.We are separated at the moment.I still love her..Please give me spiritual advise.She is the person that I want to spend my life with.Thanks
Andy Arthur
South Africa
I am guilty. I’m ashamed of what I did. I had a good wife and I fuck up my cheating on her. She never showed me love her compassion. That’s why I went off found somebody else can give me my Lord.
Let say you being cheated on by your next partner, you marry another one and so on. You will be in 4 different marriage. Isn’t this sexual immorality ? Jesus allows divorce in the case of sexual immorality but does not allow remarriages
Does not say you can remarry, that is add-on, not in scripture, “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of porneia (sexual immorality), makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32). Remarriage not mentioned in any verse you gave. remarriage is only in book twice.
I have never had any intention to divorce my husband, but the constant cheating and emotional abuse I can’t take anymore. I still love him and have forgiven him and every time he says he’s changed I believe it happens again. He has childhood drama and I’ve begged him to get help. The manipulation is too much and now I have reached my ends. I never wanted to be a single mom or divorced and I met him in the church. I don’t want to commit adultery before God when it comes to remarriage, but I do desire to be a wife and would love to have more kids. I’ve just been so depressed because my current husband I see no desire for change in him. So I’ve been thinking and praying about all I just say let your will be done. For now i am wanting separation following whatever Gods will is…….
What if one cheated while separated, not to do harm but because of immaturity, once, and asked for forgiveness and came back to his wife. Years later, because there was no real forgiveness and there was a hardened heart, the wife demanded divorce and went through with it without wanting to solve things or look for counselling. Is this a sin on the wife’s part or is this justified?
I honestly believe that abuse "christians" who say to their wife’s that they’re not allowed to divorce them don’t show them the unbeliever part because if they do the wife will realize that hey the bible supports me divorcing my husband because he’s not a true Christian.
Hi Daniel, I found great comfort in this video, my ex wife committed adultry, and although I forgave her the marriage was never the same and she left me anyway and we later divorced it was that time I came to Christ, I am now re-married and this is my current wife’s first marriage and we are incredibly happy. God bless you brother.
Your understanding of divorcing her marriage is very flawed. The Greek word is Porneia, FORNICAYION, the word sexual immorality is a different word that was not used in that context. PORNEIA, original and ancient definition is, Harlotry, prostitution, whoredom. Your your teaching is just like the evangelico churches who are looking for loopholes. Jesus did not give any loopholes to the married. He only told the Jews this in Matthew because they practiced a Jewish betrothal.. The first period of their engagement, and if the virgin bride committed fornication during her betrothal, a man could divorce her. But once the marriage, the second part once they said their vows in front of witnesses, and she took her home you cannot divorce her because now they are one flesh 4life. God does not make any provisions for divorce, the only good divorce is if you have divorced and remarried your first Covenant spouse and you need to divorce your second spouse because he’s not a covenant.
What the Bible says….
Many of you are wondering what are the grounds of divorce and remarriage…
Moses gave the certificate of divorce for the hardness of man’s heart but individuals were not permitted to remarry. Divorce and remarriage is only permitted through death or fornication Not adultery/sexual immorality( Read the most accurate translation KJV). These are two different words(definitions). Fornication is sex before marriage, Adultery is sex outside your marriage.
In those days a man was under the assumption that he was marrying a virgin. A nurse would stand outside the tent with a towel as they consummated(had sex) the marriage, if blood was not present and the female hymen was not broken she was found not to be a virgin. Because he married her under false pretense he was allowed to divorce her and remarry. Anyone else who divorces there spouse is to remain single or reconciled back to there spouse if they haven’t remarried. If they enter into another relationship they are living in Adultery…
Matt 5:32-But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Matt 19:9- And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Mark 10-12-And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Luke 16:18-Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from [her] husband committeth adultery.
1Cor 7:39-The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
Jesus and Paul was on the same page about remarriage. Both of them said remmariage is adultery as long as the first spouse is living. Divorce or seperate is permitted but not remarriage if the spouse is still living. Preacher want tell you this because they will lose 70% of their concregation
I have one question, coz I’m also facing this problem in my ministry can you please me your opinion regarding this. Couple is divorce and husband already got married with others and wife didn’t so can wife also get married?
Want a Christian man who thinks marriage is forever until death do us apart ❤
Jesus DID NOT SAY you can remarry. NO WHERE IN SCRIPTURE SAYS THAT. BE accurate sir. Furthermore the Bible KJV doesn’t not say sexual immorality. It says Fornication. Additionally, Matt 19:9 is speaking Solely to the Jews during bethoral only. (Engagement) aside from that REMARIAGE IS ONLY PERMISSIBLE IF THE SPOUSE DIES.
Thank you, but you did not cover every circumstance. Not all marriages end because of adultery.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ’s death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses’s precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ’s death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ’s death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus’s fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses’s precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod’s brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one’s unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let’s look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God’s law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ’s teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark’s Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew’s Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.