What no one tells you when you sign on for that “partnership agreement” (or “joint venture” as one of my friends calls it) of being at SAHM, is that you end up deeply subjugating yourself. As a stay-at-home-mom, you relinquish almost everything in service of raising your children, while your husband’s path remains fairly unaltered.
And that’s backed up by research. According to a recent study, women’s standard of living in divorce decreases by 27%, while men’s actually increases by 10%.
It’s not just that you’re subjugating yourself financially to your breadwinner husband. Your friendships slip away. Your hobbies. Your body. Your hormones do a crazy dance for far longer than anyone likes to tell you; and all of this lasts far longer — and is far harder to put back together — than you ever think possible.